Growing up, my mom was a huge caregiver. You could tell she really enjoyed doing acts of service for others. She still does. It’s just a part of who she is…how she shows love.
Growing up, I also felt that she did too much. For whatever reason, I thought that the man of the house should do more than my dad did. I felt he took advantage of her in many ways and didn’t treat her very well.
I swore I would never let a man treat me that way and that I would never cook and clean for anyone…it had to be shared or it wasn’t gettin’ done!
Now, at age 46, I have discovered that I actually really enjoy caring for someone I love. When I come from my heart, that’s the number one thing I want to do…be of service. Apparently, it is also how I show love.
I read the book Love Languages probably close to 10 years ago. I had the hardest time identifying mine and have gone back and forth about what they are. I realize now that it was simply because I rarely came at anything with my heart wide open because of experiences I’d had in my life and because I had these beliefs about how a relationship should work.
Now I realize that it’ a positive way to show love for another.
No matter how you show it and no matter how they receive it. Just show love. Every day.
Just in case the book is new to you, there are 5 Love Languages or 5 ways that people show love.
- Acts of service
- Quality time