A while back I was involved in a conversation around vajazzling. If you aren’t familiar, this is the practice of adding stuck on or glued on jewels to the “vagina”…that’s how people refer to it. But as you can see, it’s not your vagina at all…thank gawd! I tried and tried to visualize what that would look like/feel like and just didn’t get it.
This practice of vajazzling led to a lot of controversy in the conversation. As quiet as many can be about lady parts, this was enough to wake people up and talk about knowing our bodies and identifying parts correctly. There seemed to be a lot of people who felt it was absolutely awful to refer to this as putting beads on the vagina since that isn’t where they are being put. I was surprised by the amount of drama around the words being used. Some people shared their negative experiences around sex and their lady parts so I understood where they might be coming from.
What I love, for sure, is all the conversation – that’s a win-win. I’m not sure I personally think it’s a big deal to talk about our lady parts in a general way. It’s so cumbersome to say vulva, labia minora, labia majora, clitoris or clitoral hood, etc. etc. There’s a lot going on down there, for sure!
On the other hand, many are confused about all that’s going on down there. Did you know only 26 percent of women examine their lady parts according to research done through the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University?
If you doubt how common it is to really know all about your lady parts, Orange is the New Black on Netflix talked about it several times in the last season. Here are a couple of clips from the show…
I really believe they talked about it kind of as a public service announcement. It brought forth the issue around a lack of real knowledge. My initial shock, when they started talking about it (along with the fact that women may actually not be clear about their lady parts), wore off quickly.
While I do believe we really need to know our bodies fully, like I said, I don’t think it’s a big deal to refer to our lady parts as lady parts or simply using the universal term, vagina. No matter where you are in your knowledge, you may enjoy a really good overview of lady parts because knowledge is definitely golden. It can make a huge difference in how you feel in your body and about your body. Here’s a great book too that really gets to the heart of pleasure and desire…Dr. Christiane Northrup called the Women’s Anatomy of Arousal the most comprehensive, user-friendly, practical and uplifting book on women’s sexuality she’s ever read…that says a lot!
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