A wise woman (my mom) once told me the secret to relationships that work is to figure out what pisses the other person off and stop doing that.
I added my own take to this regarding what we stop doing. Is it something that really doesn’t matter like leaving a mess in the sink? Or is it something that makes our soul sing and, without it, we’d feel like we were dying? The second one…don’t ever stop doing those things…lose the relationship.
Of course, I’m sure that’s what she meant as well…I just felt it was important for myself to remember the value of doing what feeds us in our lives and we should never give that up for anyone.
I’ve started to see this phrase pop up on Facebook as status updates by many of my friends…
Sorry, folks. I don’t play Candy Crush or any other FB games.
Why are people saying this? Because we all keep getting invited to play this shit.
And shit is what it is.
Come on people, I get needing some down time and a way to turn off your brain and some games may actually be good for you but Candy Crush ain’t one of ’em.
Someone on one of the threads mentioned that you can’t play these games on Facebook without inviting your friends to play. It’s required as a part of the game. WTF
Then stop playing. You want your relationships to work? Stop irritating those you love. You want some down time? Go read a book, see a movie, take a walk…maybe even invite a friend to go along and ENGAGE IN LIFE!
These games are not the kind of down time anyone needs. They are crap. They are mindless. They are addicting. They are garbage.
You want your life to rock? Remember, what you put in is what you get out. If you sit in front of your computer for hours playing mindless games that suck the life out of you AND irritate your loved ones to boot, you get that back in return.
What is it that you want? Make a choice. Realize it is simply a choice. Just be clear that all actions have a reaction. The question really is which reaction would you like to show up in your life today?
I hope you’ll consider embracing life beyond your computer screen.
Amen Sister! Amen!
Sing it, Debbie 🙂
yes!!! well said:)
grinning,
Jennifer
Thanks, Jennifer. Here’s to embracing life!!
Definitely not into FB games and don’t appreciate being asked to participate. However, I play a mean game of Spider Solitaire every night before I go to bed. 🙂
Nice! Solitaire is a great game 🙂
Addictive? A few years back I was introduced to Fishville. I thinks that’s what it’s called = the very fact that I can’t remember delights me no end. Anywho, I soon found myself shooting downstairs to the computer every morning first thing to feed the fish and perhaps purchase (only with points NEVER with money) the odd scooter blennie or two. When I went on holiday I shut it down so the fish wouldn’t “die.” Told my kids and they were absolutely horrified. Their astute and critical comments woke me up. What was I doing? Good lord. Haven’t gone back on since and have NO intention of doing so.
Yes, I have been there, Kelly, and that’s why I don’t touch them. It is so easy to get addicted and before you know it, that’s where your focus is rather than on the life in front of you. So glad you saw the light 🙂
Hi Michele,
I must have disabled those because I never see any of that stuff. It is just not part of my world. I must admit, though, that I do somewhat enjoy Eric’s latest crush of playing poker online. I have him put it up on the big screen while I play Duolingo and practice my Spanish. I like games, but I like them to teach me stuff at the same time – a win-win!
Yes, Amy, those kinds of games are great! Learning and playing is good food for the brain.
Ah yes, the game invites. And the “cut and paste on your wall if you’re really my friend (hate cancer, love Jesus, whatever) because I’ll know if you don’t…”
People need to get a life. Now, cut and paste this if you agree–or I’ll send you an invite to Crushing Farmville 🙂
I know I get very tired of the repeated “share this or you’re not a patriot/Christian/non-babyeater” posts. Especially when I know many of them are deliberately designed to push the buttons of certain of my more distant relatives.
Oh, yes. I don’t like those either. If there was just a way to only show content that warmed our hearts…..hmmmm…that would be delicious.
My question is how do you block those games?? I’m like you Michele, not liking the invite aspect. I’d really like to stop getting those. I really don’t like playing those games, but to each his own is what I say. Anyone want to explain how to block?
Great question. It’s been a while since I needed to do it and they change things around so much. If you get an invite, I think I’ve clicked on it and then instead of okaying it or accepting it, there’s an option to block the app. So then you never see anything for that game again. Nice that it only takes once so until another game hits it really big, I don’t have to deal with it. I usually wait until I’ve gotten a few invites before taking action. otherwise, I’d spend way too much time dealing with it 🙂
Michele – your post made me laugh… yes, the game can be addictive. 🙂 And the never-ending invitations to games on FB can be annoying, but it’s easy enough to block the apps. Games like these allow for a simple diversion and allow the mind to focus on patterns and unwind in the process. All things in balance. As for Candy Crush – I do enjoy playing it. And it bears mentioning that I play on my IPad and have never sent out a single invitation. Playing games this way, keeps it private and unobtrusive in the world of social media. There are just some parts of life no one needs to know about. 🙂
I’m glad to hear you enjoy it as a little diversion once in a while. Balance is really important 🙂
Ugh. I understand. I USED to get terribly annoyed by it. Almost as much as I get annoyed with MLM groups. But I’ve come to accept that maybe those friends just need to be “unfollowed” so they can find their people, too. Accepting it fully with love isn’t easy though. Lol!
Unfollowed or I block the apps. At least I only have to see them once 🙂 Acceptance is important and not always easy…so true.
Many of the games–including Candy Crush–no longer *require* you to invite non-players, but if you have a small circle, it can be difficult to find other players to network with. There was one game I had to stop playing altogether because it would give out a bonus, ask you to “thank” a Facebook friend, and then refuse to give out another bonus until you did that. And every single day, it would want me to “thank” the one person on my friends list that got absolutely livid at game invitations.
Come to think of it, I stopped playing every game from that company because they got way too invested in the “ask your friends for stuff” messages. A bunch of other people did too, which is why the Zynga CEO got listed as one of the ten worst that year.
Good to know they don’t all require that!