I’ve had a lot on my mind lately in terms of liberals and conservatives. It stems from a conversation I engaged in on Facebook. I hate where it went and I understand now why. While I would not consider myself a total liberal by any means, I am clearly not a conservative. I know politics aren’t a great conversation to engage in without expecting some sort of conflict in many cases and it saddens me that it’s the way it is. Shouldn’t we be able to have conversations on topics we don’t agree on without going completely postal on one another? I believe we should be able to do it with ease but, alas, it doesn’t seem to be that way.
I feel blessed at all the pieces of information showing up for me over the last couple of weeks to provide clarity and a way to move forward (yes, that conversation really shook me on a deep level…not in a postal way nor did I ever feel anger towards her…but deep inside a lot of reflection was going on). The latest piece was this blog post on Kind Over Matter by Pace Smith for their Kind Kindred series. Pace goes on in her post to explain how, once she realized that they come from two different places, liberals and conservatives, she was able to find a space of compassion and understanding.
She quotes Miller’s Law: “To understand what another person is saying, you must assume that it is true and try to imagine what it could be true of.”
Doing this, Pace explains, leads to curiosity which leads to understanding which leads to compassion which can help you avoid burnout because, frankly, being angry is exhausting.
She’s spot on…over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been especially tired, craving soda at home (which seems to come up for me when I’m stressed) and not feeling particularly creative. I’ve been doing a lot of things to shift this and truly love my life and have a lot of fun but I haven’t been able to kick this underlying feeling. Between this post and a conversation with my coach (that’s for another post), I think I’m on my way out of the rabbit hole. Thank gawd!
What do you think of Miller’s Law? Do you find this helpful in any current area of your life?